“Wow, did you make that?”
“I could never sew something like that. You are so talented!”
How do you handle compliments on your sewing? It’s the moment that I think most of us love and fear: someone knows you sew, they are honestly impressed, and they say something lovely. You feel flattered and proud… and then how do you respond?
Myself, I usually say something self-depreciating, like, “Oh, it’s just an easy pattern.” or “Look at this flaw in the hem! It’s totally crooked.” Then maybe I say, “Well, I don’t have kids, so I need a hobby!” And that’s silly, because I love the clothes I make, I value the time and skills that sewing takes, and I don’t care about those little flaws. I like when people find out I sew, but but then I create this silly stress that I have to be in awesome me-made clothes next time they see me!
I think lots of people have trouble accepting compliments, perhaps on our appearance most of all. Ironically, our blogging community is filled with profuse compliments – no one comments except when they are going to rave or perhaps offer advice if it’s asked for directly. All those blog compliments are great for our self-confidence… so then why can’t we take them in real life?
(If you can handle compliments gracefully, PLEASE teach me how in the comments!)
Here’s what I’ll try to say next time:
- “Thank you. I really enjoy my time sewing and learning new skills.”
- “Thank you. That means a lot coming from you – you’ve got great style!”
- “Thank you. I haven’t perfected my skills yet, but I love the learning process!”
- “Thank you. I’ve met such a great community through sewing, and it’s been fun to experiment with my sense of style.”
- “Thank you.” *mic drop, walk away*
How do you respond to compliments? What do you actually say, and is there anything you’d like to say instead?