For me, there is no greater fear than cutting into a luscious piece of fabric, when I know I’m not at the size I want to be. Why should I make something now when surely my size will change in the future? This hasn’t only been true recently, or when I’ve been in larger sizes. It’s something I’ve always been nervous about.
Stacy London and Clinton Kelly often tell participants on their show, What Not to Wear, that they need to dress for the bodies they have now. Even if you’re working on losing weight, it’s important to feel good in what you’re wearing. When you wear clothes you love, it makes you feel better, which can help motivate you. And so it continues.
That philosophy, buying clothes I love that fit well now, is directly opposed to the one I fall victim to. Instead of that positive outlook, I’ve been thinking “Well, I really want to lose weight, so I should just get something that works for right now that’s cheap and buy my real wardrobe later…” How can someone feel good when they are essentially saying to themselves, “I don’t deserve good clothes now, because of x, y, and z.” or “I don’t think I’m worth having good clothes.” or “Insert negative phrase about body image here?”
It all translates into: “I’m not happy with me, now.”
Sure, fabric can be expensive. We might mess up. We might cut out fabric and realize that we don’t like the style of the outfit we’re going to sew. We might even tell ourselves, “I’ll use that fabric, the good fabric, when I have the body for it.”
I’ve done this! I have several pieces of fabric I feel that way about. I’ve had some of those pieces since 1998! That’s sixteen years of holding onto fabric thinking, “I’ll sew this when the time is perfect.” Sixteen years! If I told a client I was holding off on a project until the conditions were just right for sixteen years, well, that client would get fairly fed up with me!
So, why do we do this to our bodies? All too often, women tell ourselves that our current bodies are not good enough to be draped in the lovely fabric we are so excited about.
Well, I’m finished with that thinking! I’ve decided to go ahead and start cutting into that fabric I’ve saved for the perfect day. One of the things on my to-make list is Vogue 8875.
I plan on making the dress with this dragon fabric I bought shortly after my son was born. I think it will look awesome and plan on wearing it out on a date with my husband. I cannot remember what I originally bought the fabric to make, but I bought a lot of it, and then it sat, sad and lonely, wanting to fulfill its purpose as fabric.
Of course, I’m also nervous about messing up – either in cutting out the fabric or in assembling the pattern. What if I don’t like the way the fabric looks when it’s done?
Oh, but these are all excuses. It’s time to dismiss with the excuses and start sewing!
What fabric have you been saving for that “perfect” moment? What are your excuses for not cutting into it?
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